Anonymous Valentines. I don't get it.

[cdave]

Valentines Day has always seemed to have two parallel traditions. For those in a relationship it is a day to express your love for each other (lets set aside cynicism for now). I think this is a lovely sentiment.

The other one is anonymously declaring your love for someone. This bit doesn't make sense to me. I don't understand it at all.

Asking someone out, is fine. Telling someone you think they're gorgeous in person, could be objectifying and creepy, so is not so cool, but can be done politely. But anonymously saying you love them seems a bit... well stalkery.

Can you explain this to me?

That said ...tell me you love me!!!!!


Get your own valentinr

I never turn off anonymous comments, but what the heck, I'm declaring this to be an anonymous comment Friday. Log off face book and say what you want.

Comments

[owlfish]

I can see how anonymity would make sense if it's a crush you'd never want to act on.

I grew up with a third tradition of Valentine's cards: give them to everyone in your family and elementary school classroom. C. still finds it really odd that my family exchanges cards on Valentine's Day since he grew up with such a different tradition of them.

[cdave]

Hahaha! Sorry. It does seem odd given the association I have with Valentines cards.

<insert joke about <small island community> here>

[offensive-mango.livejournal.com]

I grew up with a third tradition of Valentine's cards: give them to everyone in your family and elementary school classroom.

Yes, me too. I think that's why I find it very strange when people in the UK take so against Valentine's Day--to me it's just a holiday when anyone who loves anyone else, in any way, celebrates that. It doesn't have to involve money.